You dated this great guy and he didn’t call you back even after saying he would !
Here are some of the things I do (or don’t do):
Don’t interfere. Some people like to follow up, but I find I get my answer a lot quicker if I observe his (non-) behavior. Actions speak louder than words. Don’t push or prod — even if you’re just being casual and friendly or writing a breezy one-liner on his Facebook wall. He’ll feel obligated to answer back. But if you sit back and watch, he’ll reveal how he truly feels.
I would never call and say, "It’s Guy. Remember me? From Tuesday night? I never heard from you — did you have a good time? So, what’ve you been up to?" You might mistake a pleasant conversation for genuine interest. But the truth will come out much faster if you kick back and relax. Remember this Pausch’s advice? "When it comes to men that are romantically interested in you, it’s really simple: just ignore everything they say, and only pay attention to what they do."
Don’t analyze. You will never know why he didn’t call, but the point is that you have all the information you need. If he’s the guy who will be taking you to meet his parents in three months, he will call the next day or very soon after. (I’ve dated those people.) In the end, that’s the person you want, not someone who’s only half-interested, or thinks you’re superhot but doesn’t feel like being anyone’s boyfriend/girlfriend right now. Simply say, "He’s just not that into me" or my own Law, which is "Eventually, every guy stops calling." (And I don’t mean this in a negative way! It’s just that the hundreds of men who are attracted to you can’t all be The One.)
Remember that it’s his loss! Do not second-guess yourself. You were not too fat, too talkative, or too prudish. (Of course, I might have done something different if given the chance, but I will never say I wasn’t enough.) If he/she doesn’t call, that’s their issue. They didn’t realize they had the whole package in front of him, ripe for the picking. That’s idiotic, and I don’t want to be with an idiot. If you go down the path of "Was I not good enough?" that will lead to insecurity, which just might show through when you’re on a date later with someone who’s a legit potential.
Keep your options open. Have a few guys waiting in the wings. Everyone needs a distraction or two!
I’ve always found that men are happiest when taking the lead, so I don’t initiate even harmless chit chat. That way, I don’t waste any time chasing someone who honestly isn’t dying to know me more (but is just too polite to say so).
WRITTEN BY : GUY D. BREAU